Several years ago I might have told you something like "I think Facebook is great! You can re-connect with friends you haven't seen in years & it's a great way to keep up on people's lives." Today I'm telling you "Facebook is destroying us!"
Facebook is the instigator of stupid fights, jealousy & procrastinating. Now, let me first say I really do enjoy Facebook at moments. I love seeing pictures of my family & close friends that live far away, it's a great way to know who needs prayer even if their hundreds of miles away ...but beyond that I don't see it doing much good.
First, people become either really brave or dumb behind the computer screen. Your Facebook page is your page, you are at liberty to post whatever you want...as am I on my page. What I don't get is when someone posts something on their page that may be slightly controversial, the battle it ensues.
I might post something about why I don't let my kids cry it out at night, or an article on natural medicine versus traditional. It never fails that someone, and typically the same people, will rudely comment about why I am wrong. I get that people have their opinions, obviously I have mine too or I wouldn't have shared said article. However, the majority of people would not get so rude and self righteous in a face to face conversation. Behind the screen though...it's like they have no filter at all.
Sometimes I just don't need to know that you disagree with me...because truth of the matter is, if we're close I probably already know you disagree and still love you. For example...I was talking with my husband's cousin about this recently..she is a big supporter of gay marriage, I'm 100% against it. We know this about each other & love each other through that. If she posted an article for gay marriage, I wouldn't say a word...and vice versa, because we already know where the other person stands and there is nothing helpful about arguing about it. So..stop starting meaningless debates behind your computer screen! It's dumb.
Second, 99% of people have incredibly perfect lives. I mean, their kids are getting straight A's in school, their husband is cleaning the house and buying flowers "just because" , their house looks like it came out of Better Homes & Gardens and dinner looks like they have a professional chef. I mean..behind the screen anyways.
Reality is, at least in our house...before we started school for the day my 6 year old pouted and whined that he didn't want to do it, I lost my temper...then I had to ask forgiveness ( do you know how humbling it is to ask your kids to forgive you? try it), then we prayed together and finally got started! My husband..yep he's cleaning house but just yesterday I told him that I was tired of picking up after him & our kids spouses will be so happy that I didn't go around picking up after them all the time, because they will as grown adults know how to pick up their dirty underwear. My house...well it's never spotless...my couch has a marker spot or two that I can't get out, there's almost always cut up paper on the floor because my boys are obsessed with scissors and paper & someone has probably spilled a drink and forgot to tell me. Oh...and dinner, yep I love to cook, but let's be honest most nights we're scrounging around last minute figuring out what to throw together.
So when I jump online and see pictures of your newly decorated home, or your extravagant vacation pictures.... maybe a picture of your kids schoolwork with #gifted or a picture of your husband and you one date night #besthusbandever ...maybe I get a bit jealous. I've done some of these things before..and I'm trying to be more aware for a few reasons.
I know not everyone cares that we're having pasta with homemade sauce and homemade bread for dinner. Not everyone cares that I think my son is doing amazing in school & some people think I'm self righteous over the fact that we homeschool (p.s. I'm not, I think we're incredibly blessed to be able to do so). I am learning that sometimes a wife so desperately wants a date night with her husband, but he hasn't asked...or they can't get a babysitter.
My life isn't perfect...so why should I pretend it is behind a computer screen, to hundreds of people who really could care less? When I talk face to face to someone, I don't like debate...I don't stoop to name calling & I would hope as an adult you don't either. For this reason, I don't debate on FB..actually if someone debates with something I post I end up deleting the thread all together; I despise controversy that much. So when I see you call someone a "moron" or some other silly name because you disagree with them, it does nothing but make me loose respect for you. I mean for me elementary school was 20+ years ago, I have no desire to relive it.
Lately before I post my thought has been "does this benefit anyone?" , "is it true & loving?" if not then chances are it doesn't need said...that's what we're taught in real life, right? "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all?" Most of us follow this in day to day living, so why is it so different behind a screen? You're still you and you're called to be a light, to love others.